Wednesday, January 1, 2014


Goodbye 2013!  I am glad to see you go.  You were a year of many emotions...loss, grief, anxiety, joy, happiness, and even hope.  It's been a tough year, one where I have found that my grief has overshadowed the good parts.  Even the joyful parts, Joshua's baptism, Thanksgiving, time with friends, and even Christmas, were seen with eyes tinged with thoughts of "what if" or "I would have been..." And even in those difficult times I know I've been blessed beyond measure.  I have so many things to be thankful for.  The Lord truly is in the very small details of my life and 2013 gave me several opportunities to see his hand at work all around me, friendships were strengthened and faith has increased. But now I'm looking forward to the future.

So I say goodbye to 2013.

Hello 2014!  Hello Gorgeous!

Quite literally I'll be starting this new year with a new journey in life.  My gastric bypass surgery is just 5 days away.  I've already lost 10 pounds and I'm looking forward to losing even more with this new tool.

When I found out I was approved for surgery and the reality of what that meant started to set in I felt like I needed to hurry up and experience the things that I felt I would lose post-surgery, eat the foods I would say goodbye to forever...a surgery bucket list.  On my list - 1) drink as many Dirty Diet Cokes as possible, and when it's not dirty just go for it and drink regular coca-cola (sweet nectar of the gods); 2) The Garage  in Salt Lake for fried funeral potato balls and chicken and waffles; 3) Red Iguana for the Enchiladas Poblanos; 4) Lucky 13 for the garlic fries and fried pickles; 5) Penny Ann's Cafe for an authentic philly cheesteak and sweet potato fries and their amazing banana cream pie.  Some of my favorite things that Salt Lake dining has to offer.  Funny thing, the only thing on my surgery bucket list that I accomplished was #1 and have even given that up in the 2 weeks prior to surgery.  I realized that by indulging now, I'd have to work harder later.  So with 2013 I say goodbye to all of those things as well.

So now I have NEW bucket list beginning in 2014 - a post-surgery bucket list of things I want to do but haven't because of physical limitations.  Here's my new bucket list:

1) Ride bikes with my family
2) Shop for clothes in the regular section of the store
3) Take ballroom dance classes with my husband
4) Sit in a booth, movie theater seat, airplane seat, etc...without being uncomfortable
5) Take Joshua to Disneyland and RIDE the rides (I'd even settle for a first adventure to lagoon)
6) Ski again
7) Join the Electric Run 5K August 22, 2014 in Salt Lake City - Brittany, you're my coach on this one!  I hope my dream team of Karen, Betsy, Jamie, and Sarah will join me as well!

I am sure I'll add more to this list.  But for now, it's a start. Something to work for.

So hello 2014!  I'm looking forward to all you have to offer.  You are what I make of you!!

Thursday, December 26, 2013

Tips for Friends after Gastric Bypass

10 Days and Counting!!!

My life is going through a huge change at the moment as I prepare to undergo weight loss surgery.  I am so blessed to be surrounded by supportive family, friends, and co-workers. I am overwhelmed at the outpouring of love and support that has come from those around me.  Many have asked what they could do to help.  For awhile I didn't know what to say...there is so much I am still learning and still so much unknown.  My surgeon's office has provided a wealth of resources and I came across a hand out that has Tips for Friends and Family!  So please allow me to share these suggestions of things you can do - of course a simple smile and a hug go a long way as well.

Tips for family and friends:
·        Appreciate the changes that your friend makes after surgery and ask how you can help. Some changes may be inconvenient or difficult, but it is important for you to be flexible and accommodating.

 ·        Refrain from nagging or criticizing. Do not try to control or instruct them about their eating behaviors and activity level. They are the ones in charge of when and what they will eat and how much they should exercise.

 ·        Provide companionship while they walk or exercise to support their efforts to increase physical activity. Having a partner may be more motivational than exercising alone.

 ·        You can also help by removing high fat and high sugar foods from your environment and by planning and preparing low, fat and low sugar meals. Do not hide food from them, and try to ignore what they eat.

·        Do not try to persuade them to eat more or to eat high fat and high sugar foods. Similarly, do not offer food or give food gifts.

·        Love them without worrying about their food behavior. Do not become too personally involved and too invested in their weight loss – and do not expect perfection or fast weight loss. Show care and support, but remember that they are doing this for themselves.

 ·        Be generous with compliments and positive feedback; celebrate their successes. By complimenting them no matter how well they are doing and by giving them rewards when they achieve their goals, you will encourage their efforts.

Copied from the Rocky Mountain Associated Physicians Educational Materials.